Number 1, I have your book and follow your stuff
and I LOVE IT...to say the least. I've noticed
though, that a lot of your stuff dealing with
first encounters and pickups seems to be best fit
for the club/bar scene which is great and
everything, but I'm wondering how you go about
doing pickups in regular places, like a
supermarket, store, or coffee shop for instance?
What suggestions do you have for meeting women
here and how would you personally approach a women
in these circumstances? I mean, after a
conversation has progressed, I can see how the
cocky and funny will work but I wondering about
the first encounter if you could help please.
Second, I see that one of your biggest suggestions
is seeking out other successful guys in your area
and hanging with them and learning from them. My
problem is even though I live in a huge college
campus area with PLENTY of women around and lots
of stuff to do, I can't find any other guys in my
area who I can go out with and kick some a** with.
Most of my family and friends are back home and I
haven't really made any close guy friends that I
can hit the clubs/bars with here (the ones I do
have are just nerds who want to stay home and just
drink only). I mean I can go out by myself but I
like having a wing with me-it's funner that way! I
really agree with you though about the importance
of this and I was wondering if you any suggestions
on how to find other guys who you can go out and
chase tail with? See...why can't you live closer
to me damn it!!
Yep, that's it.
And you can do that in a few minutes, if you
know what to do and how to do it. I've had MANY
friends of mine go out with me and watch me get 5+
numbers in an evening from women, and only talk to
them for a few minutes each to do it. And I'll
tell you what... it changes their perspectives
forever.
Long conversations are not a pre-requisite for
getting a phone number, email address, or future
date.
I can hear the arguments now:
"But no woman is going to just give out her
number..."
"What makes you think a woman is just going to
hand over her private information to a stranger?"
Well, I'm here to tell you that I, and many
guys I know, have done it SO many times that it's
no longer a question in my mind.
And here's why you might want to do it this
way:
Let's say you're relatively NEW at learning how
to approach women and begin conversations...
The longer you talk to a woman when you first
meet her, the more likely you are to say something
stupid, say something that disqualifies you in her
mind, or get into a conversation that goes down
the wrong road. It's as simple as that.
If you don't waste any time, and just focus on
getting her email and number, you'll be able to
set up a second meeting... where you can focus on
taking things to the next level. And trust me,
it's a lot easier to recover from a mistake or bad
conversation when you're sitting across from her
alone over a cup of tea then when you're looking
at her over the mango section in the supermarket.
Think about it.
So let's land the plane...
The question is, "What do you do to get her to
give up the info so quickly?".
I think it's a good idea to go out once in
awhile to the local hotspots and WATCH what's
going on. Specifically, I think it's a great idea
to look for beautiful women that are with guys,
and watch how the GUY is behaving. Also, it's
interesting to watch guys picking women up to see
what they're doing. You'll learn a few really
important things first-hand when you do this:
1) You'll see the body language of guys that are
able to attract and keep women.
2) You'll see the gestures and hear the voice tone
of guys that are approaching women, and see how
the women respond.
3) Invariably, you'll see some guys are really
good with women, and you can make friends with
them. It's easy... just say, "Hey, you are the mac
with the babes. Let me buy you a beer. I need you
to tell me a few things." A beer is a cheap price
to pay for wisdom.
Of course, you probably realize, as I did, that
getting a number or a date is A SMALL PIECE of the
puzzle.
If you REALLY want to master all of the
different aspects of success with women and
dating, then you need to get yourself a copy of my
Advanced Dating Techniques program.
Everything I teach in my Advanced Dating
Techniques CD/DVD program is very specifically
designed to teach you the ATTITUDE and BODY
LANGUAGE and all the other little things that
cause women to feel ATTRACTION inside... for
reasons that they don't even understand.
Your Friend,
Rajneesh
Thursday, June 10, 2010
How To Use Humor To Attract Women
One of the things that I discuss a lot is the
idea of why women feel ATTRACTION for some men
while NOT feeling it for others (even though the
men that women feel ATTRACTION for might not be
good choices for them because they're abusive,
etc.)
If you recall, one of the concepts that I teach
goes something like this:
* ATTRACTION isn't something that is logically
chosen.
* ATTRACTION is basically an EMOTIONAL RESPONSE to
certain cues and behaviors.
One of the things I've isolated that seems to
cause women to feel this magical ATTRACTION to men
is the idea that I call being "Cocky & Funny."
This is simply using an arrogant style of humor
when you're dealing with attractive women that
leads to them feeling the emotion of ATTRACTION
for you.
At the seminars I teach, I realized that
several of the guys were having trouble getting
the idea that a woman could feel an emotion like
ATTRACTION in response to something as seemingly
unrelated as making arrogant jokes (especially
about her) and making her laugh.
I mean, how COULD this possibly work?
I thought I'd take this newsletter and talk a
bit about why I think that something so illogical
could help you to create ATTRACTION, and some
specifics about how to do it.
FIRST THE "WHY"...
Remember, women feel ATTRACTION for a very
different set of reasons than men do.
Where men focus more on LOOKS, women focus more
on PERSONALITY, SELF ESTEEM, POWER, and several
other more "intangible" qualities.
Women also love men who can make them laugh.
And by watching a lot of guys who are VERY good
at attracting women, I've noticed a common
pattern.
Most of these guys use a common way of
communicating with women that communicates the
above qualities WITHOUT ACTUALLY HAVING TO SAY
THAT THEY HAVE THEM.
I call this way of communicating "Cocky &
Funny," and it's one of the cornerstones of
attracting women.
I believe that when a man is Cocky & Funny, he
triggers a primal response inside of a woman that
creates an instant emotional ATTRACTION.
This is because women come "pre-wired" with an
internal template of what comprises a desirable
mate, and a set of emotional trigger buttons that,
when pushed, create that powerful emotional
response called ATTRACTION that compels her to
mate with the man who triggers it.
Most men have no idea that this mechanism
exists or how to trigger it, so they do
traditional "nice guy" things like buying dinners,
gifts, and flowers... and giving women
compliments... and calling them all the time
(which usually have the OPPOSITE of the desired
effect when used too much, and too early on).
As I got to know more and more guys who were
REALLY GOOD with women, I started to see that they
weren't afraid to make fun of attractive women,
bust on them, and even challenge them... but it
was always done in a VERY FUNNY, even charming
way.
At first I just assumed that it was the fact
that this pattern was just a technique that my
friends were using to make conversation.
Only after really paying attention, trying out
this technique myself quite a bit, and LOOKING
CLOSELY AT THE ACTUAL RESPONSES I WAS GETTING did
I begin to realize the UNBELIEVABLY POWERFUL
EMOTIONAL RESPONSES that this one concept was
generating.
And after working on it, testing it, refining
it, and studying the finer points about women,
men, and the whole "mating process" did I begin to
really understand how well this worked.
Here's the basic formula:
1. Take an arrogant comment.
2. Add humor to make it funny.
3. Feel free to use this combination when poking
fun at the woman you're dealing with.
Here's a simple example:
Let's say you're walking down the street with a
woman and she says, "Wow, I really like those
shoes in the window" and you answer, "You would".
Here's another one:
Let's say you're talking to a woman who's
wearing a pair of shoes with four inch heels, and
you say, "So what, are you about four feet tall
without the shoes?"
Get it?
You're saying things that are FUNNY while at
the same time A BIT ARROGANT.
An added bonus that these two examples
demonstrate is that neither one is quite clear.
It's obvious that you're making fun of her, but
it's not exactly clear what you mean.
When you communicate like this, you
communicate:
1. That you're confident.
2. That you're comfortable.
3. That you're intelligent.
4. That you're funny.
...which, of course, are all qualities that
lead to a woman feeling ATTRACTION.
Of course, most men wouldn't even THINK about
saying things like this to a woman that they find
attractive because they fear REJECTION.
Most men would also say that I must be CRAZY
for thinking that these kinds of comments would
trigger an EMOTIONAL response of ATTRACTION inside
of a woman.
I can understand this because when I first saw
guys being Cocky & Funny with women, I PERSONALLY
couldn't believe that it was what was creating the
ATTRACTION.
But the fact is that IT DOES CREATE ATTRACTION.
And as illogical as it seems, if you learn how
to cultivate the skill of being Cocky & Funny,
you'll notice an AMAZING difference in the way
that women respond to you.
You'll find that the more you refine and
perfect the technique, the more women will want to
talk to you, be around you, and feel the
uncontrollable urges associated with ATTRACTION.
So here's the formula again: When you're in a
situation with a woman, say things that are both
Cocky & Funny.
Let's say you're talking to a woman, and she
says, "Here, let me buy this round of drinks."
You might respond by saying, "Look, don't think
that just because you buy me a drink that I'm
going to go home with you. I'm not that easy...."
Or maybe she mentions that she just started
working as a waitress... and you say, "Well,
that's a deal breaker for me, because I need a
woman who makes enough to support the both of us
so I can pursue my life-long goal of being a house
husband."
Are you with me?
These are all FUNNY and at the same time
ARROGANT.
One of the exercises that I recommend is to
take some time and come up with a whole bunch of
Cocky & Funny comments that YOU can use in the
most common "real world" situations you find
yourself meeting women in... and then mentally
rehearse them so you have them ready in your mind
to use.
When you use this magical way of communicating
with women, you'll find that it often sparks an
INSTANT sexual tension, and sets up a perfect
interaction between you and the woman you're
talking to.
It creates a wonderful, entertaining CHALLENGE
that women just LOVE to engage in...
It not only sets you apart from other men, but
as I mentioned, it also triggers that wonderful
emotion called ATTRACTION at the same time.
Double Bonus!
Of course, this is one part of a much bigger
picture of how to use your personality to create
sexual tension and ATTRACTION from the VERY
BEGINNING of your interactions with women.
And if you want to learn all of the secrets
that have taken me literally YEARS to figure out,
then I'd recommend that you check out my Advanced
Dating Techniques program.
It's JAM PACKED with killer concepts,
techniques, and step by step tactics for
approaching women, starting conversations,
creating attraction, getting numbers, getting
dates, and taking things to a "physical" level...
all with very little risk of rejection.
Your Friend,
Rajneesh
idea of why women feel ATTRACTION for some men
while NOT feeling it for others (even though the
men that women feel ATTRACTION for might not be
good choices for them because they're abusive,
etc.)
If you recall, one of the concepts that I teach
goes something like this:
* ATTRACTION isn't something that is logically
chosen.
* ATTRACTION is basically an EMOTIONAL RESPONSE to
certain cues and behaviors.
One of the things I've isolated that seems to
cause women to feel this magical ATTRACTION to men
is the idea that I call being "Cocky & Funny."
This is simply using an arrogant style of humor
when you're dealing with attractive women that
leads to them feeling the emotion of ATTRACTION
for you.
At the seminars I teach, I realized that
several of the guys were having trouble getting
the idea that a woman could feel an emotion like
ATTRACTION in response to something as seemingly
unrelated as making arrogant jokes (especially
about her) and making her laugh.
I mean, how COULD this possibly work?
I thought I'd take this newsletter and talk a
bit about why I think that something so illogical
could help you to create ATTRACTION, and some
specifics about how to do it.
FIRST THE "WHY"...
Remember, women feel ATTRACTION for a very
different set of reasons than men do.
Where men focus more on LOOKS, women focus more
on PERSONALITY, SELF ESTEEM, POWER, and several
other more "intangible" qualities.
Women also love men who can make them laugh.
And by watching a lot of guys who are VERY good
at attracting women, I've noticed a common
pattern.
Most of these guys use a common way of
communicating with women that communicates the
above qualities WITHOUT ACTUALLY HAVING TO SAY
THAT THEY HAVE THEM.
I call this way of communicating "Cocky &
Funny," and it's one of the cornerstones of
attracting women.
I believe that when a man is Cocky & Funny, he
triggers a primal response inside of a woman that
creates an instant emotional ATTRACTION.
This is because women come "pre-wired" with an
internal template of what comprises a desirable
mate, and a set of emotional trigger buttons that,
when pushed, create that powerful emotional
response called ATTRACTION that compels her to
mate with the man who triggers it.
Most men have no idea that this mechanism
exists or how to trigger it, so they do
traditional "nice guy" things like buying dinners,
gifts, and flowers... and giving women
compliments... and calling them all the time
(which usually have the OPPOSITE of the desired
effect when used too much, and too early on).
As I got to know more and more guys who were
REALLY GOOD with women, I started to see that they
weren't afraid to make fun of attractive women,
bust on them, and even challenge them... but it
was always done in a VERY FUNNY, even charming
way.
At first I just assumed that it was the fact
that this pattern was just a technique that my
friends were using to make conversation.
Only after really paying attention, trying out
this technique myself quite a bit, and LOOKING
CLOSELY AT THE ACTUAL RESPONSES I WAS GETTING did
I begin to realize the UNBELIEVABLY POWERFUL
EMOTIONAL RESPONSES that this one concept was
generating.
And after working on it, testing it, refining
it, and studying the finer points about women,
men, and the whole "mating process" did I begin to
really understand how well this worked.
Here's the basic formula:
1. Take an arrogant comment.
2. Add humor to make it funny.
3. Feel free to use this combination when poking
fun at the woman you're dealing with.
Here's a simple example:
Let's say you're walking down the street with a
woman and she says, "Wow, I really like those
shoes in the window" and you answer, "You would".
Here's another one:
Let's say you're talking to a woman who's
wearing a pair of shoes with four inch heels, and
you say, "So what, are you about four feet tall
without the shoes?"
Get it?
You're saying things that are FUNNY while at
the same time A BIT ARROGANT.
An added bonus that these two examples
demonstrate is that neither one is quite clear.
It's obvious that you're making fun of her, but
it's not exactly clear what you mean.
When you communicate like this, you
communicate:
1. That you're confident.
2. That you're comfortable.
3. That you're intelligent.
4. That you're funny.
...which, of course, are all qualities that
lead to a woman feeling ATTRACTION.
Of course, most men wouldn't even THINK about
saying things like this to a woman that they find
attractive because they fear REJECTION.
Most men would also say that I must be CRAZY
for thinking that these kinds of comments would
trigger an EMOTIONAL response of ATTRACTION inside
of a woman.
I can understand this because when I first saw
guys being Cocky & Funny with women, I PERSONALLY
couldn't believe that it was what was creating the
ATTRACTION.
But the fact is that IT DOES CREATE ATTRACTION.
And as illogical as it seems, if you learn how
to cultivate the skill of being Cocky & Funny,
you'll notice an AMAZING difference in the way
that women respond to you.
You'll find that the more you refine and
perfect the technique, the more women will want to
talk to you, be around you, and feel the
uncontrollable urges associated with ATTRACTION.
So here's the formula again: When you're in a
situation with a woman, say things that are both
Cocky & Funny.
Let's say you're talking to a woman, and she
says, "Here, let me buy this round of drinks."
You might respond by saying, "Look, don't think
that just because you buy me a drink that I'm
going to go home with you. I'm not that easy...."
Or maybe she mentions that she just started
working as a waitress... and you say, "Well,
that's a deal breaker for me, because I need a
woman who makes enough to support the both of us
so I can pursue my life-long goal of being a house
husband."
Are you with me?
These are all FUNNY and at the same time
ARROGANT.
One of the exercises that I recommend is to
take some time and come up with a whole bunch of
Cocky & Funny comments that YOU can use in the
most common "real world" situations you find
yourself meeting women in... and then mentally
rehearse them so you have them ready in your mind
to use.
When you use this magical way of communicating
with women, you'll find that it often sparks an
INSTANT sexual tension, and sets up a perfect
interaction between you and the woman you're
talking to.
It creates a wonderful, entertaining CHALLENGE
that women just LOVE to engage in...
It not only sets you apart from other men, but
as I mentioned, it also triggers that wonderful
emotion called ATTRACTION at the same time.
Double Bonus!
Of course, this is one part of a much bigger
picture of how to use your personality to create
sexual tension and ATTRACTION from the VERY
BEGINNING of your interactions with women.
And if you want to learn all of the secrets
that have taken me literally YEARS to figure out,
then I'd recommend that you check out my Advanced
Dating Techniques program.
It's JAM PACKED with killer concepts,
techniques, and step by step tactics for
approaching women, starting conversations,
creating attraction, getting numbers, getting
dates, and taking things to a "physical" level...
all with very little risk of rejection.
Your Friend,
Rajneesh
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